In the Dog Box
I'm in a bit of a bad situation. Yesterday, while having lunch with Mari & Christina (and meeting the very cute little Marcus Corona for the first time), I learned that Mari had received a lovely gift from her husband at their birth of their son - a token of his appreciation for the nine months she had just endured and the beautiful child she had brought into the world. When asked what I had got for Inna, well ... us South Africans don't have such customs was my retort (my in-laws were surprised that I didn't even get her flowers which is something of a Russian tradition). It was all downhill from there. My mistake having lunch with two women and letting such a topic come up. A bigger mistake when I didn't drop the discussion given the opportunity. My biggest mistake was to raise this issue with Innochka last night. Seems I'm a terrible husband and now begins my penance.
posted by Mark @ 9:50 AM
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12 Comments:
And so Leon makes a big, red reminder in his diary about birth gifts for (hopefully) end-of-next-year-ish....
Yes, Mark, I got a lovely gift from Tiffany's from my husband when Katie was born. You can always make it up to Inna....
It's definitely a South African thing. Owen is in the dog-box with you Mark ;-)
And now you went ahead and made another mistake! You told about it on the I-net!!! Markie who is married you or I? I thought it was you, but apperently I know more about it than you do!!! Well I mourn for your poor behind, but I believe you should get punished by Innochka! Serves you right! And just another reminder not to mess with Gorbikoffs! :-)
I feel your pain, Mark.
I think the idea of a woman being compensated for the "trauma" and inconvenience of having a child is insulting to the husband and the child. Men, stop being such a spineless bunch of losers. Stand up for yourselves.
Now there's a comment I didn't expect from the "other" side.
well...at least you are not in the dog house...
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I can't speak about the motivation of women in general, but my wife just likes to be appreciated. Not compensation, just appreciation. Which I do, I just don't always use the right "language".
Thanks a lot Owen! Now I'm in the proverbial dog box too, what with all your 'appreciation' talk. Gggrrrrr!
Well, if we're just talking about appreciation here, then a letter, or a poem (an 'Ode to Inna' perhaps?), or a song would also be appropriate, would it not? This might actually be a more difficult, though cheaper, form of expression for some.
There you have it Mark...I've thown down the gauntlet. I don't think letters of appreciation are not an exclusively american custom. :) In your defense, I do think Chicagoans do have some of the biggest rings and jewelry I've seen.
This discussion is not about appreciation, but the fact that men are in the dog box if they don't cough up. It's emotional blackmail at best and gross extortion at worst: I would be insulted if my husband showed me any form of appreciation for my willingness and ability to do what 3 billion other human beings can also do.
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